It’s super rare that a breakup happens completely out of nowhere. In between all the crying and pints of ice cream and texts to our best friends, we most likely know that’s the truth. Even if we didn’t want to admit it, we knew that things weren’t going well with our boyfriend for a long time. It’s never super obvious when a relationship isn’t working out and when we just aren’t meant to be with this person. Whether we stop spending time with them or don’t say the kinds of things that we did back in the beginning, there are a lot of signs that spell trouble.
Of course, when we’re in the middle of a bad relationship, we rarely admit it to ourselves or the people who are closest to us. If our best friend, sister, or mom tell us that they’re worried about us and don’t think that we should stay with our boyfriend, we’re more likely to tell them to stay out of it than to say, “You know what, you’re totally right.” When we look back, we can see the signs, but it might take us a while. It’s much easier for us to be objective with the gift of hindsight. Here are 15 all too real stages of a standstill or doomed relationship.
You Stop Saying “I Love You” And When You Do, It Feels Forced
There is nothing quite like saying “I love you” to someone for the first time. It’s so magical and amazing, you can’t believe that it’s happening to you, and you just want everyone to know how you feel about this person that is now such a big part of your life.
When your relationship is doomed, one of the first things that happen is you both stop saying these three little words to each other. It might happen slowly at first, but then all of a sudden, you realize that it’s been months since you talked to each other like this. It’s super important to talk about you feel about each other all the time. It further cements your connection and makes it clear that you’re both on the same page and are putting a ton of effort into the relationship.
Your Closeness And Connection Goes Right Out The Window
This one is a no-brainer, right?! Being close with one another is a huge part of a relationship.
Sure, couples are different about this kind of stuff, and not everyone is super passionate all the time, and that’s definitely okay! But you don’t want to be that way most of the time or else it’s kind of strange. When a relationship is doomed, you’ll enter the “no closeness” phase and it can be super difficult to get out of this.
Once you stop being with each other this way, you start feeling more like friends than anything else, and that’s a really bad situation to be in.
Even if you both want to go back to the way that things used to be, too much time might have passed and you might feel differently about each other. Yup, it’s definitely super sad.
You Rarely Kiss Or Show Any Affection
Just like intimacy, kissing is another important key to any successful relationship. Plus, if you’re attracted to someone and they feel that way about you, kissing is just fun, plain and simple.
Once you and your boyfriend stop kissing all the time, you might as well break up on the spot because your relationship is definitely doomed.
There’s no coming back from this.
You should both want to kiss all the time, even if, yes, life and work and grocery shopping and all that stuff gets in the way. No couple can actually make out 24/7, but if you two are crazy about each other, that should be what you wish could happen. And that feeling shouldn’t go away, no matter how long you’ve been together.