Oh, the honeymoon phase. We all love that time early on in every relationship where each moment feels magical and every love song feels like it finally makes sense. You and your new boo go into a kind of love hibernation during the honeymoon phase, where you spend every moment you can together. When you’re apart, you think about them constantly and drive your friends crazy talking about them. We tend to hold this time of the relationship up as an ideal, but it can, and sometimes does, go too far. What are the red flags you’re too obsessed with your relationship? It’s important to note them, because when passion turns into codependence and fixation, it can take a serious toll on your mental health and well-being.
By knowing how to spot the trouble signs early on, you’ll know when it’s time to take a step back from the relationship and do some thinking. If you’re already bordering on (or are already full-on) obsessed with your partner, it doesn’t automatically mean you have to end the relationship — it just means that you should address the toxic behaviors immediately. To learn more about what to look out for, I reached out to experts who broke down the signs that you’re beyond the normal honeymoon phase and have crossed into unhealthy territory.
1. YOUR WHOLE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND YOUR PARTNER
It’s normal to think about your partner throughout the day — they are a big part of your life, after all. But when you reach the point where, “you’re so focused on them that everything occurring in your world relates to them,” you’re heading into obsessive territory, NYC relationship expert Susan Winter tells Elite Daily.
Diana Dorell, dating coach and author of The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again, tells Elite Daily that when when thinking about your partner becomes disruptive to your work and personal life, it’s time to pull the emergency brake on the relationship. For instance, if “you are unable to focus at work because you are constantly wondering if they are missing you,” or “you begin avoiding friends and family and drop everything to take a call from the person you’re seeing.”